Burn the pretty candles, use the good crockery and wear the lovely pyjamas. April 26, 2018 13:07

I love interacting with buyers and overhearing their conversations. It is invaluable to me in terms of refining designs and collections – yes I actually do take on board what is being said!

But I also often hear things that make me sad. Things like:

“My husband won’t want to see me in something that sexy.”

“I can only get that playsuit when I’ve lost at least 5kg.”


“ I wouldn’t sleep in something so nice.”


I always wonder why. Why do we buy pretty candles and amazing crockery, so that they can gather dust waiting for that special occasion that never arrives? Why would we only buy good clothes to wear in front of other people, instead of investing in something that makes us feel treasured, even when no one is looking?

Is it a case of believing that we need to wear a mask, so different to who we are in private? Or is it that we have a deep-seated belief that we’re unworthy of beauty?

Alexander Wang is quoted as saying, “Anyone can get dressed up and glamorous, but it is how people dress on their days off that is most intriguing.”

I would say that while fashion is a form of self-expression, it isn’t a true reflection of who we believe ourselves to be. How you treat yourself in your most intimate space is the most telling.

Beauty and happiness is your birthright, and is a choice we make. So burn the pretty candles, use the lovely crockery.

Wear the lovely pyjamas.


Photo credit: Pieter Driessel Photogrpahy